Being vulnerable is the most difficult emotion for me to express yet I found myself in a situation recently where I had to be open about something I considered to be my most closely guarded secret which I will refer to as my “flaw.” It is not something that I am forthcoming about but in this particular scenario my insecurity about my “flaw” was expressed outwardly, to the point that I was not really being myself. I was not able to be care free and live in the moment for fear that it would be exposed.
This “flaw” has got my psyche all messed up. I feel like it is my fault this happened to me, that I am too young to be going through this and sometimes I feel that I am simply just not pretty. Now overall I am a confident person but sometimes I experience a lack of confidence in this struggle with my insecurity.
Even with my face all made up in MK, a fresh pedicure and eyebrows freshly waxed I still do not feel beautiful at times. I guess beauty and confidence are really a reflection of how we feel about ourselves on the inside.
I eventually allowed myself to be vulnerable and confided in my friend about my “flaw” and then I felt like crying. I felt like crying because I was being completely open, I felt like crying because I was wondering if I would be viewed differently, I felt like crying because I wondered if I would judge someone else with my “flaw.” My friend kept reassuring me that I am beautiful but I could not see it. And in the back of my mind I kept thinking how can you think that I am beautiful? (this is deep) Even though I know my “flaw” is not me I was afraid of being judged. The rational me knows that my friends love me without condition but the emotional side of me was preparing not to be accepted.
The word beautiful was lost on me because I did not believe it. The word beautiful was lost on me because I did not feel it. The word beautiful was just that to me a “word.”
Life would be all so simple if someone could just give us a compliment and all of our insecurities would fade to black.
No matter how much reassurance I get from others I cannot embrace my beauty until I give myself permission to be flawed, imperfect and still worthy enough to be loved.
I am in the midst of this beautiful struggle and praying to God to free me of this insecurity so that I can be in love with the me that he created.
Maybe if I tell myself I am beautiful everyday I will start to believe it and eventually become the victor in this beautiful struggle.